My friends and I late last year started dating. We started at basically the same time. The eldest of us was the last to date and the youngest was kind of the first to have a girlfriend. I have not only been keen of our trio friendship but also of how it has changed since we got girlfriends. Before we used to hangout out a lot, text alot and spend alot of time together. We could exchange advices on how to build a grand Mega reality. We talked of buying fancy cars and not to mention of trio wedding 8 years from now. How we will be renting neighborhood apartments and move to suburb at 45 to settle with our families and parents. Actually we had swore that the most a person could have was three kids.It felt fulfilling and good till a new reality unfolded.
Well I was the youngest and A was the eldest of us all but let me not forget M who kind of started dating because of the pressure from us.A to a reasonable extent have managed to balance her relationship life with our friendship life. Despite having a girlfriend he can once in a week give me a call just to remind me of the beautiful ideas we used to discuss before we started this wonderful world of dating and infact he insists of a physical meet now and again.
“Having a girlfriend is a blessing to me.” He asserts.”She not only brings out the part of me that I never realized before but also makes me feel more like the luckiest man on earth” A continues. And deep inside I say to myself that I’d kill to have a girl like that. Not at one point as she ever cheated on him and the most interesting part was that this girl was still a virgin at 20…yeah true story.I know that caught you with a lot of surprise but trust me there are still lots of beautiful girls out there both inside and out. They talk about their specific day of key events on their relationship like when they’ll get married, where they’ll spend their honeymoon and one of the craziest was the first time they’ll have sex.
What? Iasked A. “You mean all this time you haven’t like tried it out? ” and he’ll go like bro easy …that doesn’t make someone less of a man between it makes you an extra ordinary man. I’ll go like you’re right bro but deep within am battling my feeling on how damn this guy is until he adds something. ” Well..I know it’s a lot of stuff to take in but if only you understand how powerful this act is,then you’ll for sure be willing to make it ceremonious..for me..it’s on that day she’ll say I do.” Jeeez!!that perfectly sank in.
To my other friend, M,who cuts in between the two of us. He was very ambitious right from day one in campus till last semester,the conclusion of our third year. He nowadays objects every positive suggestion from us and he kind of has kept his distance. He’s the perfect defination of dating being a slavery. He forgot about his old friends. His life is always his girlfriend. Well, there’s is nothing bad in being with your girlfriend 100% of the time but it kind of makes you a slave to her. A real guy has to have other useful activities going on in his life. He should provide a sense of direction to the girl not the other way round. The moment you start forgetting about everything in your life and your make your life about your partner that’s the very moment the rain is beating you as my favourite lecture Mr.Maina puts it.
I don’t feel my friend, M, is the only one but many of us. Well unlike A I don’t know what goes on in M’s life since he started dating. He barely spend time with us even a simple text from him is like waiting for rain in Sahara desert. What he forgets is the desperation you can never hide when one looks at you straight in the eye. I have this feeling that M is working very hard to be a perfect guy but he’s totally lost truck. His pocket money Is always split into two.
His girlfriend is a master of playing needy. Why sacrifice your beautifully given life for the sake of a stranger who to be honest isn’t adding any value in your life.
A lady’s life should just go on just as your life even at the point of dating. She should keep her former friends and continue building new ones.
One of my girl friends recommended a very good book to me on the commencement of this week – the monk who sold his ferari. In the book they say true satisfaction isn’t in possessing all the world can provide materially but in having a happy fulfilling life.
Is your dating giving you a happy fulfilling life or are you dating because your friends are dating. There’s never a rush, the right girl/guy is out there waiting for you.
Just like traveling, dating should always be out of passion. It should be a fuel that drives you in your everyday activity.